Gratitude

I have to admit that when it comes to home life I probably don't thank the exgf enough when she does stuff around the house yet I expect it when I do things.

I'm not sure why I don't, it may be the male chauvinist in me thinks that because she is a stay at home mum (working a few hours here and there) and that these things should be done so I take it for granted. Last night she came up to me and I had ironed my sons and my clothes earlier in the day and she made a comment that she might have to re iron them as she doesn't like the way I do it and also asked where I had put them, so I told her on the draws, to which she started moaning at me as to why I hadn't put them away etc. I then moaned that she could have said thanks before she moaned and criticised me. Exgf then blew up at me saying that I never thank her for dinner unless prompted and other bits.

So today is another learning day for me and making sure i thank her when she has done something like the washing up and cooking dinner. I'll try and not do it in a patronising way but sometimes I just can't help it.

I just fell really down right now, yesterday I felt like a broken man, when I woke I just thought "ok, she's won, I'll do anything she wants" and the cheery me went out of the door, he still isn't back at the mo, but I hope he'll be back soon.

I just feel like I have to do all the changing and the exgf won't do anything, I have given her the Sex Starved Marriage book that I brought, I read quite a bit of it and tried to take some of the advice on board but got uninterested in the book when the exgf wasn't willing to try anything to fix the situation we were in. I don't think she has started to read it yet so I may take it back and read it myself all the way through again. With the problem that we are experiencing in the bedroom I thought it would be a great opportunity to mention it to the doctor on Thursday as we took my son in as he hadn't been well for a couple of weeks, but was fine on the day we did. When I mentioned about talking to the doctor about it she got all defensive and said if I didn't stop going on about it there would be no us to sort out.