Can you Relate?

So I have got myself on the waiting list for RELATE, hopefully it won't be to far in the distance. I told the gf about it and she told me that if i go then it is over between us, i'm not sure how serious she means this but if thats the case then at least RELATE will be able to help me with the moving on process. I am hoping that it is just taking time for the idea of relate to sink in to the gf and its just a knee jerk reaction on her part.
I guess the proof will be in the pudding when relate send or leave a message on the phone, as if the gf asks about it I will tell her, I have had enough of her trying to dicate what we can and can't do in the relationship. Last week was a so so week and nothing much really happened, during the week I had the usual talk about the lack of sex and this went down like a lead balloon thens when I booked relate and when I told her about it she went off on one saying we don't need it, I won't go, if you go its over, so I left that conversation as it was.

Friday I had to take my son to school as the gf was not really with it as she was having problems with her wisdom tooth coming through and had kept her up most of the night, it also made her cheek swell so she looked like a gerbil. Once I had dropped him off i was coming through town when i had to stop at a zebra crossing, as I did this though, someone went in to the back of my car, there was no real damage to my bumber, being an older BMW and being built like a brick shit house, but his, a rover, seems to do quite some damage to his front bumper. I took my car to the garage after work just to make sure nothing major had bene broken and they gave it the all clear.

Saturday was a bit of a lazy day, i got up and did my washing and got my son breakfast, we then played out oin the garden for a while and he heard his friend out in his garden, so off he went to play with him and bag himself a scooter for £5, he has wanted one for ages and his friend had to and his dad asked if my son would like it, my son started nodding like the churchill dog, so I said yes, he was just going to give it to us, but i asked how much and he said give me a fiver. I told my son that he has to pay for it and i would get the money from his piggy bank, his reply "yeah, sure". after playing out the front for a while as we had had a power cut the three boys went and played the wii for a while, my sons friend got upset though when his dad beat him at a game and really started bawling his eyes out, so his dad took him off and we left and the gf and I took my son to the park to try out his scooter and ride his bike.

Sunday was a slow begining and just cleaning the house as we were having the gf's brothers gf's daughter over as they had gone away for the weekend. The girls turned up about half 11 so they played in the garden for a while, we then took them out the front so that they could ride the bike, scooter and ther electric quad bike. Once they got board and i was tired after chasing them and making sure they were staying on the path we made them lunch which went down well for my son and the youngest (2yrs I think), the third, same age as my son, was complaining of tummy ache so went and sat in the front room for a while. The oldest girl and my son then played for a while, whilst the youngest was so tired that she just couldn't get comfortable, we eventually got her to sleep in my sons chair, under her jacket, blanket and her teddies, she was sound alseep and slept for about 2 and ahalf hours. Her mum got to ours about 5ish with her bf whilst we were eating our dinner, so they stayed for a cuppa, but the girls were to excited to eat now that mummy was back. When they left I made my son sit on the sofa without talking, made the gf sit down and chilled for 5 mins, I now know why 1 child is enough, it was great having them, but the peace when they left was so much better.
after we had tidied up, it was time for my son to go to bed, he had a story read to him on the sofa and passed out quite quickley. Once i had put him to bed I went upstairs and did my ironing which I had put off for about 2 weeks and also put a film on. Once all done i went downstairs to see the gf and as it was getting late and we were both tired we went to bed, i started looking for a book to read as I wasn't quite ready to go to bed when she leans over me to help, as she does this I gently rub her shoulders and lets say that I was no longer going to read and carried on massaging her shoulder and neck for her I then move my hands down to her legs but as she wasn't in the right position, she lies down and i get under the covers to finish the job, whilst down there, I decide that maybe she is up for some extra fun and luckily I was right and Sunday night we made love, so maybe things are changing, slowly.

Hangover Horn

I don't know if this happens to women but after talking to friends and rading some discussion boards, this seems to hit mean quite often.

This is whether they are single, married or with partner, it just seems to strike whether you are still drunk form the night before or head pounding like there is a dinosaur jumping on your brain.
I doubt there have been any scientific studies on it, but I would love to know the reason, is it just a man thing and is it due to the hangover?

This happened to me Sunday morning but as i knew i was in the gf's bad books I did try to woo her by getting the breakfast in, which I thought might be a bit romantic, obviously wrong as maybe I should have cooked it and taken it to her, but it didn't have the desired effect for her or for me.

If you google it, you will come up with some interesting forums

Woman Speak

I just don't get why women can't just tell you something instead of dropping hints or you having to guess what they mean.



I had a good birthday weekend, Friday night the inlaws came round and we had takeaway and a session on the Wii, when they left me and the gf stayed up and watched some telly, we then headed to bed, on the way up the gf asked if I wanted to sleep in her bed, I said no don't worry as my son will proberbly get in as he hasn't been feeling 100% and that my snoring (which after a drink can be quite bad, so I have been told) might keep her awake. So we went to our own rooms and went to bed, well I lay down in bed and cried myself to sleep, I'm not sure why, but I thinkI was feeling unloved as I had had no affection from the gf, physically and only a bit mentally and just before I went to sleep I sent a shitty text "Thanks for not trying to have any sexual contact with me".

When I woke the next morning I didn't think much off it and carried on with stuff and washing up from the night before whilst the gf and my son were still alseep. My son woke and I sorted his breakfast out for him and we sat down together and talked about what we would do. When the gf got up things were normal and I took her to work and me and my son went swimming for an hour then for lunch in the cafe at the sports centre, the gf joined us as she didn't have any work to do. When I got home I told my son he could go and play with his friend down the road and I just faffed around the house being pretty bored, we then picked the gf up at half 3, we sat down and had a cup of tea, where she tells me that she got my message when she was at work and that when she asked me "Are you sleeping in my bed tonight" it wasd a hint that we were going ot have sex, normally when she says this, it is to just sleep in the same bed, so no wonder I had no clue that is what she meant. We then got ready to go out for the evening and dropped my son off at his nans and the evening began.



We met our friends at 7 and started catching up with the goss and whats been happening, more friends joined later and there was about 10 of us in total, all chatting and drinking, we then had to go to the next bar, we were supposed to be there for 9 and it was already half 9, so a group of them headed off to the pub inc the gf as she was to cold to walk and got a lift with a friend, whilst four of us went to the bar round the corner to break the walk up a bit. Once we finished our beer there we met up with the rest of the group and had a few more drinks. The oub we were at was closing for the evening so we headed back to pub number two but the gf was hungry, so we stopped of at the kebab house for a burger, when she asked me to pay I said only if you show me your boobies, this didn't work and I should have stopped there, but no, me and my fondness for boobies got me in to more trouble as i tried to pay for a friends burger, if she would let me see hers, alas it was a no and she paid for it herself, this was a bit of a downfall for me for the rest of the evening as the gf now wasn't happy with me and when we got home, no nookie again.



Sunday I dragged my sorry arse ouf of bed and wandered to the local shop,

1 to freshen my head up,

2 to have a smoke

3 to make up for last night.



So I get back and the gf is still asleep so I go and watch a film upstairs, she surfaces about 10ish just as our son is being dropped off. I then make myself a bacon sandwich and and go and play outside with my son. we ended up going out for some of the day with the gf's brother and his partner and her two daughters, we went and had chips by the canal and a play about with the kids which they loved. I cooked dinner for all of us and we then relaxed watching robots to try and get my son to sleep but he loves the film to much so afterwards I took him to bed and tucked him in. Me and the gf then cuddled up on the sofa for a bit, where I gave her a back and should massage.

Today I have also added myself to the relate waiting list, when on the phone I was asked if I would be bringing my partner, I said, hopefully.

10th Anniversery of my 21st

Today is my birhtday and luckily I have a few plans for this weekend.

Tonight the in-laws are coming round for a takeaway and a few drinks, so this will be the gf's mum and step dad and at least one of her brothers.

Saturday I am out with friends doing a bit of a pub crawl, so I think my alchol intake will be on the high side.

I got a card from my dad a couple of days ago which was nice, he apologised that there was no present for me, but the card was enough for me. I have no idea when I am getting for my birthday but I don't really care as long as i have a good time.

Hope you all have a good weekend

Can it

These peices of art were created just using cans of food.



Architect and engineers compete to see whose team can build the most spectacular structure using little more than cans of food at Canstruction, the 13th annual NYC Design and Build competition in New York . All these cans will go to the food bank afterwards.



http://www.myinterestingfiles.com/2007/08/canstruction.html

T Minus 2 days

The weekend went very well and only on tiff really happened because of my mum staying, the rest of the time I made sure the gf was occupied or I was.

My mum took us out for dinner Friday night, just to a harvester type place, the food wasn't bad and my son had a great time as she had also brought him some Ben 10 activity books. we had a couple of glasses of wine and a coffee with the meal and it seemed to go quite well, that was until I got in. My gf was to happy about my mum coming to stay as she said it would upset my sons routine and it would tire him out to much, which I disagreed with, but as we got back a bit late Friday night, she decided she had to prove me wrong. It didn't really work as my son went straight to bed and didn't wake till about 8 the next day.

Saturday I took my son swimming and afterwards we popped to the shops and went home and played out in the garden playing swing ball and football, this tired him out a bit and after dinner near enough went straight to sleep. As my mum had been out all day Saturday I said I would eat with her, knowing she would be back a little late and that the gf and my son could eat together, which was another way around to stop the gf moaning about how late our son would be up. Mum brought back this massive fillet beef joint and that's what we had for dinner and I didn't have to cook once again, I was left with the washing up though but I didn't mind, its when i have cooked the dinner then am left to the washing up with after that bugs me sometimes but its one of those things.

On Sunday we had a lazy day at home as there wasn't much that needed doing, we me and my son played in the garden again, he loves his swingball set and is getting better with each it time which is great as he eye and hand coordination will be so much better, the gf came out a couple of times to play and to this date she still hasn't beaten me and I think it is annoying her a little but she can practice when ever she wants. Mum had been out for the day visiting my brother and her father in law who is in a care home since his wife passed away last year, he had a stroke quite a few years ago and was coping with it well, but with his wife now gone he can't do as much around the house as needed. when mum got home she had brought some burgers with her and we had a burger supper, with homemade chips and it was great, she also brought the gf some slippers and a new dressing gown as a thank you for her hospitality and to keep things sweet. Over dinner I had the usual ear bending of my smoking and why don't I give up blah blah blah and it was from both sides, so I went out for a smoke, when i got back in mum was asking me what I want for my birthday (this Friday) and I didn't have a clue, as most stuff that I need I have got and things I want I normally buy or just weigh it up if I actually need it, so yesterday I got home from work and there was a birthday card for me from my mum with a cheque for £200, bless her, so all I need to do now is bank it, withdraw it and put it in a safe place, as if I leave it in my account I may end up pissing it against the wall or just using it for day to day stuff.

Last year she gave me £300 as it was my 30th which I told her she didn't have to do, but with it I brought myself some little bits but also a new camera. So this year I would like to get something that I am going to get use out of, so any suggestions would be grateful.

Grinning Like A Cheshire Cat

Yesterday I had to pick the gf up form her mum's house as they had bene out shopping, when I got there I played with my son for a bout 5 mins before catching up with what they had bene up to and buying etc, the gf told me she had had her breasts measured, I had asked her to do this as for the past couple of months i had noticed that they had got bigger, she then told me that she was now a 34DD, I just couldn't keep smiling and as the gf was teling me her mum went past just sniggering to herself, I think she knew I was going to like the good news. So last night I was smiling and it really started to get on her nerves, so I went to bed early to stop myself getting in to any more trouble.

Whilst having dinner last night I received this text

"To my 2 sons I am sorry to have let you down over recent times I deeply regret it love dad"

as you may or may not know my dad has had money problems and i also had to go bankjrupt because of it, I didn't loko at the message straight away as I find it impolite to text or phone at the dinner table when people are eating, so when we had finished, about 5 mins after getting it, I just started and didn't know what to do as the worse possible thought came in to my head, suicide. I didn't know what to do so I sent 2 texts in a row

"Dad don't worry about it. You ok?"
"Where are you"

My dad then replied
"yes ok"
"Up north again"

So me again
"Don't send text like that it scares the shit out of me"

Dad
"Why i am not silly or weak just thoughtful"

me
"OK just making sure you weren't doing anything silly"

Dad
"No sorry to have given that impression"

Me
"i'll forgive you, just don't sends ones like that again, it scared me"

Dad
"OK but I honestley did not mean to sound like that, I just know I have been a royal pain in the bum just lately and i'm sorry for that"

me
"You have been a little, but what are families for"

so after all of that I had a beer and calmed down and relaxed, my blood pressure is amlost back to normal and the colour has now returned to my cheeks.

Have a good weekend all, mine should be fun as the Ducthess(Mum) is staying this weekend and I have already got on the wrong side of my gf.

The Kid is growing up

I had last week off work as my son was starting primary school and i wanted to be there for him. He only started on Thursday and is only doing 2 hours in the morning but what a big step it is for him.

We took him on Wednesday as they had a drop in session for the children so that they could get used to the surroundings and meet their teacher again and just to freshen up in their minds who they were, it was a good hour spent there and the teachers had laid on activities for the children to do, the first was to paint a peg to hold their wellies together, the second was to colour in a pebble which had their name on it, the third which my son didn't want to do was to make a clay model of the animal of which class they are in, so for him it would have been a caterpiller. When it was time to leave my son kicked up a fuss and said he wanted to stay and play and we had to promise him that we would bring him back the next day before he would leave.

Thursday being the first day of school for him went very well with no hitches, we took him in the morning for a 9 o'clock start and off he went, when we picked him up at half 11 he was all smiles and really pleased with himself, he seems to have settled in very well and I can't wait for him to start full time hours as I think he will get alot out of it.

Here he is in his school uniform, this won't be up for long though