Viva La France

My mum is moving to France in April/May this year and i would love the opportunity to move out with her.

The problem is that I need to persuade the gf to want to do it to.

Pros

The house is on so much land and there are so many buildings that we wouldn't see much of my mum and step dad (not that I mind seeing them but you don't want to be in each others pockets)

Its in the south the weather is normally great.

An hour and a half drive to Spain (well the Pyrenees are and if you like skiing that's a good thing)
Also with Andorra just down the road to.

The cons

Probably are some but i don't care apart from if my gf won't come with me


I just need to know how I approach her with the subject without hitting a brick wall.

Metallica Are Coming to the UK

And I have tickets to see them

The last time I saw them play was in 1996/1997 at London Earls court. I was 18/19 at the time and I have to say that this concert was excellent and I am glad that I can get to see them again, this time at London Wembley Stadium (yes it is finished, I just hope they get their safety certificate).

************************UPDATE************************************

I will be seeing them at wembley as they now have their safety certificate

I have been told off

as i haven't posted for a while so I will ask for forgiveness now.

Doc, I'm sorry for not posting please forgive me.

Right that bit over.

What has happened since I last posted, hhmmmm let me have a think.

There have been some ups and downs with the gf, mainly downs,

Last week we had a barny because i went to play football and she decided that she wasn't going to trampolining as she was going to look after our son.

This is what happened

He was poorly on Sunday and Monday, so I left work early Monday to go home and give the gf some help, Tuesday morning my son was feeling better, not 100% still though, so i rang and made an appointment with the doctors and took him. They gave me some antibiotics for him, as the time was running on I said to work I would be working from home, which they said they didn't mind. So i worked from home all day Tuesday, the gf had to leave at 3pm for a meeting at work and instead of her taking my son to her mums she left him with me which I didn't mind so whilst I was working I was also looking after him.

Then Wednesday I go to work and speak to the gf a couple of times when during one of the conversations she mentions that she will not be going to trampolining so she could stay at home with our son, to which I said ok.

So i get home and start sorting my football gear out, when the gf asks me what I am doing so I tell her and she say "I thought you would stay with me and look after your son" to which I replied "it doesn't need both of us and you chose not to go"
This then started an eruption of foul language from her, so i picked my bag up and headed for the door, where she shouts at me "Don't Fucking think about going out that door, if you do its over"

So I open the door and feel something hit me in the chin, it was her engagement ring, it landed outside so I closed the door and went to football ( I had a great game, I think it was the pent up anger being released).

Just before I get changed to play I get three texts

1 "Well I now know how much I mean to you"
2 "Don't bother coming home"
3 "Your son is crying and is upset" Which wouldn't have happened if she was shouting and swearing at me as I left.

So once football is over i head to the bar and have a few drinks with the lads when i get another text "Your son is waiting up for you", well I thought I wasn't supposed to be going home but I finish my drink and the phone rings and I hang up then text her that I am just leaving.

When I get home I say hello and get no reception so I start doing bits around the house as we have a viewing, cleaning the bathroom and toilet. Once that is done I take my son to bed and go back downstairs and start washing up, the gf comes in tries to give me a cuddle but I don't really respond and she doesn't actually say sorry or anything but in the end I cave. We have a quick chat and then I finish washing up.

Then last night my mum calls up, she sounded unhappy and asks to meet me for a drink, so I do, it only works out to be she has had an argument with her hubby, but it was nice to chat to her and catch up. When I get in the other half is watching tv, I am then going to tell her what was up with my mum when she starts moaning about my smoking, she moans that I haven't given it up yet, that I smell, the usual stuff. So I told her that I smoked before she met me, smoked when we got together and she turned round and said, "well I used to sleep around before I met you, should i do that then", so I said "yes"

I think I am looking for a way out, I don't think I can carry this on anymore (the relationship).

Past Week

Well not much has really happened over the past week apart from my gf's birthday, i took her to see Jimmy Carr, me going out over the weekend and her trying to finish with me.

Before i start ranting and raving, just to say if you get the chance go and see Jimmy Carr live, he is a very funny man and very good at cutting the hecklers down.

I don't know what caused it or why it happened but we were in bed and she told me she couldn't do us anymore and that now was the time for us to move on. Now I know that she has said this before and i don't know whether she means it each time or not but I just agree with her and tell her shes right I think it is time, I'm not sure if I do this because

A I have had enough
B She doesn't mean it and tomorrow all will be fine again.

This time the latter happened and we are still together, I don't know if this has made us stronger or not but it really does my head in.

She did give me a few reasons,

"I want you to be happy" so i told her I am happy
"You should be able to have sex", I do with you, ok not as often as I won't but i love you
"There was this program on TV that got me thinking" (now i have no idea what program it was or anything), Its only a TV program and I don't care I want to be with you.

Now I can't remember if it was before I fell a sleep or next morning but she told me she did want to be with me.

Anyway enough about that, on Saturday we went out for one of her friends birthday, which was a nice change as normally she will go without me, either because she thinks I won't enjoy myself or just so she can have some time to herself, either of which I don't mind. We had a good time and when the main meal was over I left her with her friends and I met up with a friend and we went out drinking for a bit longer.

At the moment though I feel in limbo, with trying to sell the house, work (just feels like the same thing everyday and no way out, think I need to talk to someone about that) and the way me and the gf are.

It will sort itself out, just need to sit down and think all of it through.