Time passes...

Tuesday I had been on the phone to the gf when she told me some of the things my son had been up to, "just this and that, oh and he swallowed 5p", I asked her how and she tells me that it just happened, so I asked my son and he doesn't know either, he told me he hadn't put it in his mouth as I have told him off for doing this before. I told the gf not to worry and its one of those things that happens to kids and it should come out sooner or later.

So fast forward to this morning and I am having my morning wee and notice something in the bottom of the toilet, I give it a flush to get a better look and it was the magic 5p, I let the gf know as she hadn't even notice and then my son just laughed and wondered how it had come out, so this morning I gave a quick biology lesson to a almost 5 year old, now I wasn't very good at biology (we didn't even have it as a separate subject at school and was just classed as science, so I gave it to him in layman's terms. I explained that what you put in your mouth then goes to your stomach (unless your trixie it goes in your nose) then what your body can't use comes out in your poo, he just laughed but I think he got it which was great.

The Witches are coming

This week has been quite quiet for me, just the normal of going to work and then home again.

Over the weekend we went to a wedding reception of someone we know, it wasn't all bad and we had a few drinks and a few laughs. there was one bloke there that had been there all day and was plastered when we turned up at half 7, he had had a couple of bottles of win to himself and I can only guess at what else, at one point one of the bridemaids made him sit with us and brought him over a jug of iced water and a pint glass and told him to drink it, which he did. further in to the night I was at the bar and he was trying to knock some rebulls down, but they didn't have the desired effect and he stayed very drunk, about an hour later, the gf asked where he was and i told her i had no idea, we did a mini patrol for him and couldn't find him, i just told her that he has probably just taken himself off home, she got a bit worried about him and I told her not to worry. Its ok, he managed to get home as he was at the sports centre yesterday playing football. After the wedding we went back to a friends house and had chinese and a drink, I fell alseep and that put paid to that so we went home.

Sunday we did a lot of tooing and throughing from our house to the gf's mum's house, then to town then back home to do some baking then back to the inlaws. The reason for all of this was that it was the youngest birthday and we were having a mini party for him, with some party food from asda, home baked cookies and muffins made by the gf. I managed to sneak out to the pub at lunch time and watch Liverpool beat Chelsea (only been about 4 years since the reds have done it at stamford bridge but well done to them). In the evening we played a boys vs girls game and had some food and a good laugh all round.

This week my son has two parties to go to and is also going to the zoo, which I will know he will love, he is already looking forward to tomorrow night and trick or treating, so for him at least everything is going well and for me, its just plodding along.

Have a good halloween

tick Tock

Things seem to be going smoothly at home at the moment, we haven't had any big arguments and I am trying a couple of suggestions that the lady at relate mentioned.

The one I am trying is trying to arrange things to do at the weekend as a family when the gf is not working, at the moment it isn't being very successful, but this is because things have already been planned or my son has had parties to go to, the week just gone he had three birthday parties to go to and next week he has another two, he has a busier social life than me. He always seems to be invited to whoever is having a party, I think that it is because he is so likable and friendly with all the other children at his school and also his pre school friends that he still keeps in contact with. One of the gripes that the gf had was that we didn't do things as a family, so we are going to sit down and figure out things we can do, even if it is just going for a walk along the beach or just taking him to the park. This weekend and that past week not much has really happened, just been busy at work and trying to get things running correctly, at home still cooking dinner when needed and doing the odd bits of cleaning etc.
I can't wait till the 31st so that I can take my son trick or treating, last year was his first time and he loved it and is looking forward to it this year again, I will probably put him in what he wore last year but at least it might fit him this time.
Last weekend the gf's brother had my son overnight and we went out of a quick slap up meal at table table, afterwards we went home and vegged on the sofa cuddling up, it was nice as I felt close to her again and hope that it will be many more to come. we have a weekend booked away on the 14th November as we are going to see the The Mighty Boosh in Brighton, we had booked a night (well I have booked a night) at Drakes Hotel, this was paid for by her mum as a birthday present but i have been sneaky and have asked her mum to have our son for an extra day and night so we can spend two nights away, without telling the gf. I am not setting my expectations at anything but fingers crossed this will give her time to let her hair down and relax. Take a look at the hotel, it looks great.
Take it easy

Post RELATE

Well I went to RELATE on my own and I only wish that the gf had been there. There was not much that the relate counsular could help with, she has given me some ideas that I need to mull over, but she said that is I do go back that she would like my gf to come to as she is only seeing my side of the story and with that can't get the whole picture.
Before I went the gf gave me back the engagement ring that I had brought her a few years back, I'm not sure what she wanted me to do with it so I have zipped it up in my wallet for now. She was adement that she wasn't coming and when I told her I had her brother coming to babysit in case she changed her mind, she went off on one asking if I had told him where I was going, I told her I hadn't and she cancelled him, this seemed to mean to me that she was cancelling us. I'm not sure what I am gong to do now as one of the texts I had from her during the day was ""You really don't get this do you. The only way of saving us is by not going" I sent a reply "No it's not. We have spent 4yrs going round in circles and I want us to get through this", her reply "We are not going to get through this" my last reply was "How do you know if you don't try?"

And try she didn't, the counsualr said that by the looks of it there was no one point as to why it wasn't working but also by the looks of it, things aren't treated equally in the relationship, she gave me some tips of how to tackle some of the isuues that I face, like the gf telling me she wants us to do stuff as a family etc, she also said though at the same time this could be the end of it all, but without the gf being there, there was no firm answer. I'm not sure if I am going to go back by myself again and not sure if I can be bothered trying anymore, I thik the email to my mum to see if she can lend me some money might be sent soon.
Take it easy

Relating

got in Friday after work and the gf tells me there is a message from relate on the answer phone, great I say, then she says "well your not going are you?", I wasn't sure what I was supposed to say, so told her I would be thinking about it.
Over the weekend as the weather was crap we didn't really do much, we had a lazy morning Saturday, with the gf getting up later than us as she had bene out for a couple of drinks the night before. Once dressed I took my son swimming as she went and talked to her friend at work about a youth club my gf is working on. after swimming we went home and as we were stuffed from having a late lunch we only had a snack for dinner, we then sat down and watched merlin. I am still not sure if I like this programme yet, but I think it is growing on me, once finished we got a supply of snacks and drink and all settled down to watch Indiana Jones and the crystal Skull, well my son fell alseep watching it as he was so tired and when it was finished I was very glad, it wasn't what I was expecting and was just rubbish, why did lucas have to go and do that to a great franchise, Jones is all about arctifacts and treasure hunting, not bloody aliens, there were more Aliens in this than there was in the X-files film I saw at the cinema. Sunday was another lazy morning and I did the washing up and then helped my son with his letters and wrods that he got from school, butwith him being tired, he got bored quite quickly.
We went to the gf's brothers gfs for sunday lunch which made a nice change to what we normally do and we had roast lamb and all the trimmings, which is what I normally leave behind as I only really eat the meat, potatoes and yourkshire pud's, I am a fusser eater, afterwards whilst the kids were playing with each other we had a game of scrabble wher eI managed to come thrid, which out of four people I didn't think was to bad ;o)
this morning I woke and decided that I would go to the relate meeting and as I had to ring by ten I text the gf to see if she would be coming, the answer was no no and again no. After some texts back and forth I think she will be ending the relationship as this is what she has threatend again today, no matter as I am still going to go and at least I will get some help even if it is just for myself.
I have no idea what to expect from this session and am not sure what I want to get from it and this morning I was trying to guess what the questions might be and then trying to answer them, I decided this was the wrong way to go and besides that is what I am paying them to do. I have about 2 hours at home before the appointment so depending on how it goes ther eI guess will help me determine what questions I might want to ask.

Thanks for putting up with my little burble of words above and I hope they made sense, see you on the flip side