The weekend started bad

Well the weekend started bad but has got slightly better.

Friday night my g/f got in a mood with me and instead of telling me what was wrong I was supposed to read her mind and guess something was wrong and ask her what was up.

I didn't and as I was leaving the house she followed me so that she could lock the door behind me so I took it as I shouldn't bother going home after going to the pub with a friend. Then the texts started and it was all hostile so in the end I ignored them, but I did in the end send her a text telling her I am on my way home and the text back was "OK".

So I get on and the duvet is ready for me on the sofa.

Then this morning I get a call from the estate agents saying they have a viewing they want to do, so I go up stairs and get on to bed next to her so that I can give her a cuddle and things, but she pushes me away and so I get up and go back down stairs. I pop back up and get in with her again and she pushes me away once again, but at least I succeeded in getting her out of bed.

So we head out to go shopping but I end up not getting out of the car as it was only a quick visit.

We get home and after I cook some lunch we head upstairs and start having a serious chat with me telling her i don't think things are working and we should really think about going our separate ways. So we discuss why I have said this and I tell her why and she listens to what I have to say but when have finished I feel that she isn't taking it in and she then argues that things have changed and that the house work is getting done and things like that, she says that I have said that I want to go and talk to someone about our sex life but not us. That did make me sit up and listen as she is right, I should have suggested that as there is more to a relationship than just sex. She asks why do i always say its over and I tell her its because its easier that way, it saves all the grief, I guess in my own way it is just me taking the shortcut.

So we ended up talking about it all and I do feel somethings have been lifted I know we still have a way to go but I am going to stick at it and try and make this work for all the right reasons and also to try and get the sex drive back up, any tips would be great (for all of it not just the sex drive).

On another note i had a quick message from the doc saying she is visiting in Sept/Oct and would I like to meet, I told her yes. I am guessing she will be with her man so also can't wait to meet him to. It will be good to have a proper conversation with words instead of text.

Hello all

I have been away from blooging for a few weekes as nothing much has hapened really with the other half, we have had sex once this year 12th Jan (not that i am keeping count) we haven't got any worse but also things haven't got any better between us.

I have been having some strange dreams recently and after talking to a friend she has told me its because I am not happy at home.

The main one that I remeber is that I am with a girl that works in my office and we are chatting and messing about whislt walking down a road/path/dirt track can't remeber which when suddenly we turn to each other and start kissing we pull away saying we can't do this but start kissing again, things then move on but then get very strange as (i think I may have woken up and falling asleep again) I am now with my ex (the one that called New years eve0 and we are now kissing cuddling and things are moving on between us but then I wake up again.

Now this dream did startle me a little and i didn't know what I wanted to do about it, so for now have pushed it to the back of my mind.

I use a website I won't mention it on here but I just want to say sorry to doc (you know who you are). She is a great sport and a great person to chat to and I would just like to say that I wouldn't do anything to upset her and the rest of the guys on the site.

Happy New Year

Well that's Christmas and New year finished for another year.

I would just like to say that I had a great time and plenty was drunk over the festive period. My son had a great time and was so overwhelmed by it all that he is only now just getting over it, bless him. we were all utterly spoilt with the gifts that we received and now i don't know what to do with it all.

There wasn't much arguing between me and my g/f which was good and there was also a little love making involved (ok not totally love making but it was good).

My New year resolution is to not push/bribe or pressure my g/f into sex. I am going to let her make all the moves (I will kiss cuddle etc but no touchy feely stuff. I have given myself till the end of Feb before I say anything if nothing happens).

I am though in a bit of a strange place right now, New years night I was dozing off when my phone rang (about half 1ish) I answered it and it was an ex girlfriend that I haven't spoken to for around 2yrs, I had sent her a happy new years text but only because I did a select all in my phone, to say I was shocked is an understatement, so we talked and we said we should catch up etc but was this just the drink talking from her end, I do not know. I spoke to a friend yesterday about it and she said it was a big deal that she had phoned but me being me just thinks i should ignore it and put it down to one of those things that happens.

I did send her a text today just asking how she was but no reply, so I think that is backing up my idea but we will see what happens.

I hope all of you out there had a good Christmas and Cat if you are reading this i hope you had a good one.