Post RELATE

Well I went to RELATE on my own and I only wish that the gf had been there. There was not much that the relate counsular could help with, she has given me some ideas that I need to mull over, but she said that is I do go back that she would like my gf to come to as she is only seeing my side of the story and with that can't get the whole picture.
Before I went the gf gave me back the engagement ring that I had brought her a few years back, I'm not sure what she wanted me to do with it so I have zipped it up in my wallet for now. She was adement that she wasn't coming and when I told her I had her brother coming to babysit in case she changed her mind, she went off on one asking if I had told him where I was going, I told her I hadn't and she cancelled him, this seemed to mean to me that she was cancelling us. I'm not sure what I am gong to do now as one of the texts I had from her during the day was ""You really don't get this do you. The only way of saving us is by not going" I sent a reply "No it's not. We have spent 4yrs going round in circles and I want us to get through this", her reply "We are not going to get through this" my last reply was "How do you know if you don't try?"

And try she didn't, the counsualr said that by the looks of it there was no one point as to why it wasn't working but also by the looks of it, things aren't treated equally in the relationship, she gave me some tips of how to tackle some of the isuues that I face, like the gf telling me she wants us to do stuff as a family etc, she also said though at the same time this could be the end of it all, but without the gf being there, there was no firm answer. I'm not sure if I am going to go back by myself again and not sure if I can be bothered trying anymore, I thik the email to my mum to see if she can lend me some money might be sent soon.
Take it easy