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Born in 1977, single and living on my own. I have a son who is my world.

Monday, March 12, 2007

I have been told off

as i haven't posted for a while so I will ask for forgiveness now.

Doc, I'm sorry for not posting please forgive me.

Right that bit over.

What has happened since I last posted, hhmmmm let me have a think.

There have been some ups and downs with the gf, mainly downs,

Last week we had a barny because i went to play football and she decided that she wasn't going to trampolining as she was going to look after our son.

This is what happened

He was poorly on Sunday and Monday, so I left work early Monday to go home and give the gf some help, Tuesday morning my son was feeling better, not 100% still though, so i rang and made an appointment with the doctors and took him. They gave me some antibiotics for him, as the time was running on I said to work I would be working from home, which they said they didn't mind. So i worked from home all day Tuesday, the gf had to leave at 3pm for a meeting at work and instead of her taking my son to her mums she left him with me which I didn't mind so whilst I was working I was also looking after him.

Then Wednesday I go to work and speak to the gf a couple of times when during one of the conversations she mentions that she will not be going to trampolining so she could stay at home with our son, to which I said ok.

So i get home and start sorting my football gear out, when the gf asks me what I am doing so I tell her and she say "I thought you would stay with me and look after your son" to which I replied "it doesn't need both of us and you chose not to go"
This then started an eruption of foul language from her, so i picked my bag up and headed for the door, where she shouts at me "Don't Fucking think about going out that door, if you do its over"

So I open the door and feel something hit me in the chin, it was her engagement ring, it landed outside so I closed the door and went to football ( I had a great game, I think it was the pent up anger being released).

Just before I get changed to play I get three texts

1 "Well I now know how much I mean to you"
2 "Don't bother coming home"
3 "Your son is crying and is upset" Which wouldn't have happened if she was shouting and swearing at me as I left.

So once football is over i head to the bar and have a few drinks with the lads when i get another text "Your son is waiting up for you", well I thought I wasn't supposed to be going home but I finish my drink and the phone rings and I hang up then text her that I am just leaving.

When I get home I say hello and get no reception so I start doing bits around the house as we have a viewing, cleaning the bathroom and toilet. Once that is done I take my son to bed and go back downstairs and start washing up, the gf comes in tries to give me a cuddle but I don't really respond and she doesn't actually say sorry or anything but in the end I cave. We have a quick chat and then I finish washing up.

Then last night my mum calls up, she sounded unhappy and asks to meet me for a drink, so I do, it only works out to be she has had an argument with her hubby, but it was nice to chat to her and catch up. When I get in the other half is watching tv, I am then going to tell her what was up with my mum when she starts moaning about my smoking, she moans that I haven't given it up yet, that I smell, the usual stuff. So I told her that I smoked before she met me, smoked when we got together and she turned round and said, "well I used to sleep around before I met you, should i do that then", so I said "yes"

I think I am looking for a way out, I don't think I can carry this on anymore (the relationship).

2 comments:

Ali said...

I have only just read this entry (beware, I am making my way back through your archives!!!).

I think it is sad when a girlfriend tries to change the way a guy is after they begin a relationship. I know I'm a woman too, but I understand that football, to those who have a passion to play it, is a lifeline, it's in the blood. My son has the same problem with his g/f. He has always played a lot of football, even before they got together. He was honest from the start and told her he would not give up his football under any circumstance which she was fine with.

After they bought a house together she has changed her tune, and is desperately unhappy with the amount of time he spends either playing or socialising in the pub after the game. She asked my advice.

I told her:

"I never used to like football either love, take my advice, learn to love it"

I, with my husband, are avidly involved with the team and support every match, quite vocally usually!!! I even photograph them for the lads and have recently produced a new team poster for them.

I have spent a lifetime learning to enjoy what my husband enjoys and being interested in everything he is. I do mean enjoy too, not endure. For me, it is the best solution, we still get to enjoy time together whilst being involved with things he enjoys... everybody wins!!

IT Barman said...

I can see my gf's point of view as I didn't start playing till Septemeber/October last year but this is really the only sort of exercise I get at the mo aprt from running after my son, also when she wants to go out for whatever reason I will never stand in her way as I feel everyone should have their "own" time